When the Thrill Is Gone Generally speaking, magazine articles about how to improve your sex life especially in marriage or a long term relationship contain the same advice: candles, hot baths and soft music are often invoked. That may be because these «better sex» stories are a staple of women’s magazines. I don’t know about you, but luxury coque iphone 6 fur coqueiphone128858 candles always make me think of church, baths are something my mother made me take, and soft music reminds me of going to the dentist. Definite turn offs all. 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